Every year I have the same problem.
What to give my elderly Italian Mother-in-Law ... a woman who has no interests, and has everything that she wants or needs [ except her sons back and I can't help there ]
Christmas is particularly tricky because the late, unlamented father-in-law died on Christmas Day in '94, thereby ensuring an ambivalent Christmas for as long as MIL's alive.
This year perhaps doubly tricky as it will be the first since the death of my brother-in-law, her last child, back in April.
The woman needs comfort and the only kind that I can provide is physical comfort so I'm making her a Faroese style shawl - simply garter stitch with a lace border in Drops Eskimo which is a lovely soft unplied single spun wool from Norway. You can see that the overall effect is a soft, sober, suitable grey - remember we're talking elderly Italian widow - but on close inspection it contains flashes of lavender and pink, so, even though she won't be able to see it, being almost completely blind, she'll still have something beautiful to wear whether she is aware of it or not.